你的EQ怎么樣？

What makes some people more successful in work and life than others? IQ and work ethic are important, but they don't tell the whole story. Our emotional intelligence -- the way we manage emotions, both our own and those of others -- can play a critical role in determining our happiness and success.

是什么讓某些人在工作和生活中比他人更成功呢？智商和職業(yè)道德固然重要，但卻只是冰山一角。情商——也就是人們處理自己及他人情緒的方式，在幸福和成功上扮演著至關(guān)重要的角色。

Not sure how emotionally intelligent you are?  Here are 14 signs you have a high EQ.

還不清楚自己的情商到底怎樣？下面14個(gè)信號(hào)就告訴你：你其實(shí)擁有高情商！

1. You're curious about people you don't know.

你對(duì)不認(rèn)識(shí)的人感到好奇。

Do you love meeting new people, and naturally tend to ask lots of questions after you've been introduced to someone? If so, you have a certain degree of empathy, one of the main components of emotional intelligence.

你是不是喜歡結(jié)交新朋友、介紹后會(huì)忍不住問(wèn)各種問(wèn)題？如果這樣，說(shuō)明你具備一定的共鳴感——這是情商的一個(gè)重要因素。

2. You're a great leader.

你是一個(gè)優(yōu)秀的領(lǐng)導(dǎo)。

Exceptional leaders often have one thing in common. In addition to the traditional requirements for success -- talent, a strong work ethic and ambition, for instance -- they possess a high degree of emotional intelligence.  The higher the rank of a person considered to be a star performer, the more emotional intelligence capabilities showed up as the reason for his or her effectiveness.

優(yōu)秀領(lǐng)導(dǎo)通常都有一個(gè)共同點(diǎn)。除了稟賦、良好的職業(yè)道德和勃勃雄心等傳統(tǒng)的成功品質(zhì)，他們還有非常高的情商。一個(gè)人越是業(yè)績(jī)斐然，其高效背后的情商也就越突出。

3. You know your strengths and weaknesses.

你清楚自己的優(yōu)缺點(diǎn)。

A big part of having self-awareness is being honest with yourself about who you are -- knowing where you excel, and where you struggle, and accepting these things about yourself. An emotionally intelligent person learns to identify their areas of strength and weakness, and analyze how to work most effectively within this framework.

“自知”很大部分就是要誠(chéng)實(shí)面對(duì)自我——清楚知道自己擅長(zhǎng)什么又不在行什么，然后接受這樣的自己。情商高的人懂得看清自己的優(yōu)缺點(diǎn)，然后在此基礎(chǔ)上想辦法做到最好。

4. You know how to pay attention.

你懂得如何集中注意力。

Do you get distracted by every tweet, text and passing thought? If so, it could be keeping you from functioning on your most emotionally intelligent level. But the ability to withstand distractions and focus on the task at hand is a great secret to emotional intelligence.

你會(huì)不會(huì)因?yàn)槊織l推特、短信或雜念而分心？倘若如此，那可不利于你好好發(fā)揮情商。情商的一大秘訣就在于抵制誘惑、專注當(dāng)下。

5. When you're upset, you know exactly why.

你明白自己為何心煩意亂。

We all experience a number of emotional fluctuations throughout the day, and often we don't even understand what's causing a wave of anger or sadness. But an important aspect of self-awareness is the ability to recognize where your emotions are coming from and to know why you feel upset.

人們平常都會(huì)遇到一些情緒波動(dòng)，而且往往并不清楚憤怒或難過(guò)背后的原因。而自知的重點(diǎn)就是能明白引起情緒低落的根源。

6. You can get along with most people.

你能和大多數(shù)人相處好。

Having fulfilling, effective relationships - that's a sign of emotional intelligence.

高情商的一個(gè)標(biāo)志就是——擁有愉快而有益的人際關(guān)系。

7. You care deeply about being a good, moral person.

你竭力要求自己做善良有道德的人。

One aspect of emotional intelligence is our "moral identity," which has to do with the extent to which we want to see ourselves as ethical, caring people. If you're someone who cares about building up this side of yourself (regardless of how you've acted in past moral situations), you might have a high EQ.

“道德性”也是情商的一方面，即人們是否愿意成為有道德有愛(ài)心的人。如果你很注重培養(yǎng)自己這一素質(zhì)(不管以前道德如何)，那么你可能擁有高情商。

8. You take time to slow down and help others.

你愿意放慢節(jié)奏去幫他人。

If you make a habit of slowing down to pay attention to others, whether by going slightly out your way to say hello to someone or helping an older woman onto the subway, you're exhibiting emotional intelligence. Many of us, a good portion of the time, are completely focused on ourselves. And it's often because we're so busy running around in a stressed-out state trying to get things done that we simply don't take the time to notice (much less help) others.

如果你常常用心留意他人——向他人淡淡地打個(gè)招呼或攙老奶奶乘地鐵，那么你是一個(gè)有情商的人。很多人在多數(shù)時(shí)候只一門(mén)心思關(guān)注自己，大家都疲于奔命處于一個(gè)高壓的狀態(tài)，根本就無(wú)暇顧及他人，更別說(shuō)提供幫助了。

9. You're good at reading people's facial expressions.

你很善于察言觀色。

Being able to sense how others are feeling is an important part of having a good EQ.

善于體察他人的情緒也是高情商的一個(gè)重要因素。

10. After you fall, you get right back up.

你跌倒了能馬上站起來(lái)。

How you deal with mistakes and setbacks says a lot about who you are. High EQ individuals know that if there's one thing we all must do in life, it's to keep on going. When an emotionally intelligent person experiences a failure or setback, he or she is able to bounce back quickly.

你解決錯(cuò)誤和挫折的方式很能反應(yīng)你的為人。高情商的人知道：如果生活中有件事不得不做，那就是繼續(xù)前行。當(dāng)這種人遇到失敗或挫折，他們會(huì)盡快重振旗鼓。

11. You're a good judge of character.

你善于評(píng)判性格。

You've always been able to get a sense for who someone is pretty much right off the bat -- and your intuitions are rarely wrong.

你總能敏銳洞察出某人的性格，而且你的直覺(jué)很少出錯(cuò)。

12. You trust your gut.

你相信自己的直覺(jué)。

An emotionally intelligent person is someone who feels comfortable following their intuition. If you're able to trust in yourself and your emotions, there's no reason not to listen to that quiet voice inside (or that feeling in your stomach) telling you which way to go.

情商高的人樂(lè)于聽(tīng)從直覺(jué)。如果你相信自己的感受，那就該聽(tīng)從內(nèi)心的聲音(或心里感受)告訴你該怎么辦。

13. You've always been self-motivated.

你常常自我激勵(lì)。

Were you always ambitious and hard-working as a kid, even when you weren't rewarded for it? If you're a motivated self-starter -- and you can focus your attention and energy towards the pursuit of your goals -- you likely have a high EQ.

小時(shí)候，就算得不到獎(jiǎng)勵(lì)，你也會(huì)雄心勃勃地努力嗎？如果你能自我激勵(lì)，并能全心全意追逐目標(biāo)，那么你很可能擁有高情商。

14. You know when to say "no."

你知道何時(shí)該拒絕。

Self-regulation, one of the five components of emotional intelligence, means being able to discipline yourself and avoid unhealthy habits. Emotionally intelligent people are generally well equipped to tolerate stress (a bad-habit trigger for many of us) and to control their impulses.

“自我調(diào)節(jié)”是情商的五要素之一，表示有能力自我約束并避開(kāi)不良習(xí)慣。壓力是很多惡習(xí)的致因，而高情商的人一般都能適應(yīng)壓力并控制好自己的沖動(dòng)。

Let's face it. We all fail.

人人都有失敗，不如坦然面對(duì)。

As we go through life we have relationships that don't work out, jobs that just aren't right, exams that we flunk, initiatives that don't succeed. The more new things we try the more failures we are likely to have. In fact, the only way to avoid failure is to do nothing new.

這一生，我們總會(huì)遇到糾纏不清的人際關(guān)系、不甚滿意的工作、未通過(guò)的考試，或者不曾實(shí)現(xiàn)的計(jì)劃。嘗試越多，挫折也越多。除非什么都不干，否則難免遭受打擊。

The important thing is how we deal with failure. It can be part of a downward slide in which lack of confidence reinforces feelings of inadequacy and incompetence. But experiencing failure can be a learning experience and an opportunity for a fresh start. A good way to begin this process is by asking yourself some tough questions.

關(guān)鍵是我們?nèi)绾蚊鎸?duì)失敗。人走下坡路，往往會(huì)自卑，感到無(wú)能為力。但失敗也是吸取教訓(xùn)、重新開(kāi)始的機(jī)會(huì)。要重新開(kāi)始，最好認(rèn)真思考下面幾個(gè)問(wèn)題。